Husband prioritized gaming over my birthday (vent) - Relationships | Forums | What to Expect (2024)

serenehue

So yesterday was my birthday. My husband works from 7-5:30 and gets home around 6. His usual routine is that he’ll eat dinner with me and our 2yr daughter, might spend a little time with her, but usually will go in the bedroom and play online with his friends until about 9, sometimes 10. Well after he got home, I went out and got my daughter some books from the store (since I promised her a surprise) and got subway for us to eat. Before I left he told me that he would be playing with our daughter while I was gone. I go 10 minutes down the road to the store and within 5 minutes of being there, I try calling him to ask him if he wanted something. The call kept getting declined (which usually means our daughter has his phone watching cartoons). So I finish up there, head to subway, and then go home. I get home and he’s on the game like I thought. He had already played a few matches at the point and didn’t come out to come eat. I gave him some time and then walked in to ask if he was going to come out to eat, he said he would after his match, and then kept playing. I go back into the room and started eating my sandwich because I was hungry . Eventually he comes out, grabs his sandwich, and then goes back into the room.

He eventually comes out, sees I’m hurting on the couch, asks if the baby was making me sore (I’m 8months pregnant), and then went back to playing after I said yes. At that time, I just got up so I could give our daughter a bath and then put her to bed. It’s 9 at this point and I just start crying in the kitchen as I’m doing stuff that needs to get done. He comes out to get a drink, with his headset still on, and saw I was crying. He immediately tells his friends he has to get off and goes to put his stuff up. He comes back out and the first thing he said was “I messed up, didn’t I?” And I told him how my feelings were hurt by his lack of care to want to spend time me or our daughter and didn’t take at least one night to take a break from his game considering it was my birthday. I could tell he felt guilty and bad for hurting my feelings and he apologized and hugged me, but I haven’t been able to shake my hurt and still feel upset this morning about it.

It’s only my 25th, so it’s not like it’s an important one, but it just sucks that when I look back on this particular birthday that this is what I’m going to remember. I don’t know what I expect posting this, but I think I’m just wanting to vent :(

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